AUTHOR : theconnectar
06 December 2016
Making Friends After that Big Move Away from Home

Moving out of home for the first time is always going to be a daunting experience. No matter the location, new surroundings can give way to feelings of isolation. Many people move because of study, or work, or simply for a change of scenery; regardless of the reason, inevitable challenges like this will always arise. It’s how you deal with them that matters most.


One of the biggest hurdles is coming face to face with the fact that you’re required to move away from your close circle of friends and embrace the unknown. If you’re venturing off to live alone, creating those initial connections is a whole other story. What if you’re time poor, or a little shy and you’re not mingling with those you’d consider compatible with your own interests and values? When these issues arise, loneliness can begin to linger and find its way into your overall lifestyle.


It’s important, however; to remember there are always ways to overcome these issues, and whilst it can be time-consuming and effort-driven, it’s all worth it in the long run.


Living alone doesn’t automatically equate to loneliness


Let’s just clarify that the two are not mutually exclusive. According to Franklin, A and Tranter B, in Loneliness in Australia, people living alone or spending a lot of time alone are not necessarily lonely. People with active social lives can also report feeling lonely, indicating that they are dissatisfied with the quality of their current social connections. That being said, research has also shown that living alone can contribute more to feelings of segregation.


In a study conducted by the Australian Bureau of Statistics, focusing on individuals aged 25-44 years, it found that men living alone, and lone fathers, were at the greatest risk of experiencing loneliness. This was due to reported lower levels of friendship and support than women. In conclusion, it was suggested that men were at greatest risk of social isolation when they lived without other adults present. Over 33% of men from this age bracket agreed with the statement ‘I often feel very lonely.’


Surround yourself with a new support network


Moving away from home doesn’t have to be a solitary journey. You might be surprised at how many other young men or women are in a similar situation to you and are actively looking for meaningful connections, but are simply unsure of where to look. The Connectar was designed for this very reason – bringing likeminded people together for whatever the reason. Whether they are feeling isolated or lonely because of a recent move, or due to dissatisfaction with their current social group.


The possibilities are endless—it just takes time and motivation to reap the benefits.